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The cop got out and knocked on our door and I got served with my husband’s lawsuit. I wanted to do something that I would have total control over, because in the years we’d been married, I’d handed over so much of my autonomy. I thought, well, I still have control over my body and he can’t tell me what to do with it. Before I started, I imagined I’d get one message at a time, that it would all unfold slowly. We seemed to be clicking, but then he asked for my cup size. I think those weeks passed more slowly than any three weeks of my life. I’d sit at my desk and fantasize about it, what I’d wear, what it would be like, what it would feel like. And then, the day we were supposed to meet, he emailed me in the morning and said that he wasn’t going to be able to make it. I responded and we’ve been sending messages now for about three months.
It turned out his business was being sued by the city. But instead, I went to open my inbox one day and had like 50 messages. A lot of the messages were explicit, men sending pictures and asking for measurements. I wasn’t interested in just a hookup; I wanted more like a friend with benefits. We haven’t consummated it but I feel like we both still want something. It occurred to me that this was one of the reasons I got married in the first place, to not feel so anxious and powerless, like the men had all the control.
She told me that the experience wasn’t at all what she thought it would be. I thought about going into the restroom and waiting but when I looked up from my phone, he was there. He sat down and didn’t seem nervous at all, and I thought the conversation was good. We arranged a time to meet for drinks after work, went to a bar, then walked along the riverbank and made out. I don’t feel like the rational part of my brain was working that efficiently. But trying to cheat and failing at it is pretty bad, too. I felt more distanced from my husband than I ever had before and also my self-esteem was so low, I couldn’t contemplate leaving.
There was an element of excitement and danger, but alongside that were feelings of loneliness, insecurity, isolation, and shame, the same feelings that made her want to cheat in the first place. After about 30 minutes, he smiled at me, and I thought he was going to ask if maybe we could get coffee again sometime soon, but instead, he kissed me. It’s hard to overstate how intense it feels to be kissed after so many years in a more or less sexless marriage. After that, we decided we’d set a date to get a hotel room. I felt like if I couldn’t even get someone to cheat with me, how would I ever find another person I wanted to have sex with have as a partner.
About a year ago, a single male friend of mine mentioned that his efforts at finding a long-term relationship were being hamstrung by the fact that an increasing number of the women he met on dating apps were already married. I remember trying on different outfits, taking forever to leave the house that morning.
Some were polyamorous, some in open marriages, but they all seemed to be seeking out extramarital relationship with a kind of freedom and shamelessness that wouldn’t have been possible until recently. My husband asked me if I had an important meeting or something.
He was being sued for thousands of dollars and he hadn’t even told me. It was at that moment that I decided I was going to have an affair. I wanted someone who would be easy to talk to and have a good sense of humor. He said he still wanted to see me and for it to happen but needed some time. But then I ended up feeling that way in my marriage.
So I started sorting through messages, looking for ones that seemed to come from real people. So in the meantime I started texting with that original match again, the one who asked about my cup size, and it seemed to be going well. Now, I was feeling that way in trying to have an affair. This is just the way it seems to go with me and men, my husband or otherwise.
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