Spanish dating customs
Here’s another one…Of course, as a Buddhist, I practice patience and compassion on the reg.24 / 7 / 365. ”Then she mentions that she’s preparing for a big job interview, or an official English exam of some kind. Of course, there are people from all over who believe one strange thing or another. Here’s one that bothers me: the idea that aircon or heating makes you sick. Listen: the amount of heartbreak I’ve been through because of Spanish girls and our cultural misunderstandings is truly mind-boggling.
And what better way to develop patience than to wait, compassionately, for someone who needs 45 minutes to blow-dry her hair before leaving the house? Paella with the in-laws is one of those things that ruins expat relationships left and right, because to many Spaniards, it’s completely non-negotiable. It’s a few weeks or months off, and you don’t think much of it. Or really moving air of any kind – especially if you’re indoors. I’m shocked that I’m still – barely – hanging onto a shred of sanity, after all that.
You might see her do it with friends – shouting and waving her hands, in a group of 9 people who are all talking simultaneously. If you should somehow become the target of this conversational shouting – and you will, if the relationship lasts longer than a few hours – the best thing to do is just breathe. It might not even be an argument – at least by her definition. Was she just waiting for the interview to be over so she could go back to dating guys with dark hair and the ability to get a tan? (It’s got a few stories about dating Spanish girls as well!
She’s probably just never had someone in her life tell her to calm down. Maybe she got sick of my carless ass and our sofa dates…
You’re on her territory, and you’re following her rules: less than half an hour late counts as “on time”. Camping is okay, though, because that’s outdoors, and it’s different air.
Meeting the family is a big deal in most cultures, but even more so in Spain.
And if you should find yourself waiting somewhere in public for her to show up, you’d better bring a book to read. And another one: don’t sleep with plants in your room.