Her life isn’t going the way she wants and she just can’t figure out why.With men, she might complain that they just “don’t get her,” but the truth is that she’s giving them every reason to head for the hills with her off-handed comments and negativity.She believes her sexuality is the only way she can attract a man, or she wants this point in her life to be a series of sexual experiences. She posts a provocative picture on her online dating profile, invites him over to her house on the first date, shows too much skin (especially for a woman over 40), and is overly familiar with her affection.The Sexpot offers herself up on the first date and is offended if her date doesn’t partake. Relationship-minded men may also say “yes” even though they may feel somewhat emasculated or turned off by her aggressiveness. She insists he give and give with little or no reciprocity; after all, he’s The Man and she’s his prize!The 18 Year Old The 18-year-old dates – sometimes a lot – but she doesn’t have relationships because “she doesn’t want the men who want her, and the men she wants don’t want her.” She doesn’t know what will make her happy and has not yet learned how to communicate and relate to grownup men.
Just like how you’ve dated your share of challenging types of men like the disappearing/reappearing Pinger, the Couch Potato, and the older-and-balder-than-his-profile-guy…men meet and enter into relationships with less-than-impressive types of women.
I’ve talked to countless single men over the years about their experiences with women, especially those in midlife and beyond.