Dating your wife while separated
Three years ago, when I was 56, I suggested to my husband that he move out of our house in New Jersey. As he was settling into his new apartment in Manhattan, he called. We would stay separated for a year and, somehow, together, figure out this whole thing.
Sometimes, emerging from a divorce, it takes a while for things to add up. We pledged that we would always be friends, and our family would survive. After a few minutes, as we were about to hang up, he told me that he was "seeing someone.""Seeing someone." Two words that splintered my head into speechlessness, followed by a dizzying internal stream of, What about "Our family would survive"?
It is so easy to give up but if your marriage is worth saving and you really want to repair a shattered marriage, you have to make a promise to yourself that you will save your marriage.
Repairing a marriage is not an overnight thing, you have to work on it every day and there are times that you may find it tiring and difficult.
My date, who was not a drinker, more of a sipper, poured his wine to the back of his throat. We finished dinner, stupefied; our heads shaking simultaneously.
Husband."And then what he had said earlier hit me: His daughter came to him about the older man she was dating "about three or four years ago." Three or four years ago. We were not sure where to take the conversation, beyond different ways of saying: "What are the chances? We ended our date, said good-bye, and I drove home and sat outside on a concrete step just beyond my back door until the sun came up.One positive outcome of this is that your spouse will start to miss you and will remember the good times you both had.