Dating rejection anger
Make a list of the positive traits you have that you’re proud of, inside and out.Appreciate the parts of yourself that you love, and work on cultivating good self esteem.Personally, I remember moments of rejection even as far back as elementary school. I remember that day, and how it felt to hear those words, vividly.I had a huge crush on a boy in my class, and during lunch time I asked him who he thought was prettier, me or this other girl in class. I’ve wondered, why is this memory and the feelings around it still so clear to me?The study also confirmed that it’s easier for us to recount details and feelings from occurrences of emotional pain than physical pain.This explains why it hurts more to reflect on the time you got dumped than to the time you broke your arm.You can also make a list of your accomplishments, both big and small. You can journal or create art to express your emotions, take a hot bath to zone out, or head to a fitness class like kickboxing to burn off some anger.So, next time you’re facing rejection (which hopefully won’t be soon) remember that your feelings are totally valid, and it’s okay to feel sad when you’re going through it.
Surround yourself with people who love you and accept you.It’s so important to love and have a positive relationship with yourself.Doing so will help you be more resilient with future instances of rejection.You can’t always be accepted for every opportunity or by every person — and that’s okay!
The people around you will remind you that you’re loved and valued.Rather than suppressing all the emotions that come with rejection, allow yourself to feel and process them.