Dating past and present
As a result, the purpose of dating was primarily to have fun, not to find a marriage partner.However, couples would form after several dates if they were interested in having more exclusive relationships." This starts to resemble what we would now conceive of as modern dating, and the ritual of courtship was left in the dust.But with the introduction of dating came an increased desire for romance and love before deciding to commit to marriage.This concept, explained in depth in goes, "By the early nineteenth century, couples began to consider romantic love prerequisite for marriage and based their unions on companionship.If a young man was interested in a young woman, he would follow the proper protocol of calling upon her, which meant that he would come to the family's home and (hopefully) be welcomed into their parlor.If he was invited back for subsequent visits, he would be free to come and call upon the young woman during hours specified by her parents.The fundamental difference between courtship and dating is that of freedom.While traditional courtship had its own set of rules and rituals, dating, as it evolved, became less structured.
In previous years, love was not seen as being of central importance to a marriage, and if it was to come it would emerge after the wedding had already occurred.Women would meet with several men, with her parents present, to whittle the pickings down to the most suitable match for marriage, which heavily relied on factors such as financial and social status.When a young woman decided on a man she wanted to see exclusively, their activities as a couple took place either in the household, or at social gatherings.The era's fiction frequently drew on love themes, while articles, essays, and public orations stressed mutual respect, reciprocity, and romance as ingredients of good marriages.
Young courting couples chose their own partners, and their letters focused on romance rather than on the practical matters that had dominated the correspondence of earlier generations." The desire to climb the social ladder or to secure one's place in society fell by the wayside, and the desire to find a favorable longterm partner took its place.
But each era of dating in the past century was not without its pros, its cons, and its own set of unspoken rules.