Dating just for the money
Yes, you can find someone who has money and who has the personality traits you value, but it will only last with that person if you don’t value their money too much. Seth is a licensed clinical psychologist, author, Psychology Today blogger, and TV guest expert.He practices in Los Angeles and treats a wide range of issues and disorders and specializes in relationships, parenting, and addiction.When you start to discuss bigger matters with the person you are dating, you are in essence letting them know that you are thinking further down the road.That must be done with some care, since one of you might think it’s all right to bring that up just a month into things and the other person may find themselves looking for the big neon sign that says “This Way Out of the Relationship!Maybe talk about how your family viewed money or what you’d do if you had a million dollars.Once the subject is on the table and the two of you have had some fun with it, maybe talk a little more in detail.Watch out for the tendency to idealize the wealthy.Dating someone with a lot more money than you sets you up for something that is extremely tempting: idealizing him or her because they have money.
Wealthy men and women often fear that people want them for their money.
It sounds great on paper – dating someone with money – but there are special considerations to take if you decide to pursue or date someone who has a lot more money than you.
Yes, dating someone with money has a lot of advantages in that he or she offers the prospect of having a nice home in a good area, fancy vacations, and the chance to engage in activities and outings that many others can’t afford.
Don’t give in to your own insecurities about how little money you make or have in comparison. Looking for someone with money is bad; looking for someone who is established – you know, has a job, health insurance, and enough money to take the occasional vacation – is good.
The bottom line is that there is no fairness in the way people get paid.If you get picked up in a fancy car and whisked away to a fancy restaurant, you’re probably going to enjoy that.