Dating a girl who never had a boyfriend
Other girls boyfriends, for example (though I’d never actively pursue them), or obsessing over guys that live too far away to ever make a relationship a viable prospect, even though I know that if they lived just down the road I wouldn’t have given them a second thought.
Some people get a sense of security from being in a relationship, mine comes from liking someone and knowing nothing could ever come of it.
This fear of the unfamiliar means I’ve found a way to end every teeny weeny chance of the beginnings of a relationship.
For starters, I’ve become obsessed with wanting what I can’t have.
It was this precious time, when I had my first, last and only boyfriend. For three glorious months (four hand holds, two pecks on the cheek and a bunch of slow dances to Enrique Iglesias later) he was mine. Hastily, I convinced a girl in his class to dump him on my behalf during morning tutor the next day. I’m now 25 years old and the majority of my family are convinced I’m a closet lesbian because they can’t understand why such a ‘great girl’ has never had a serious boyfriend.
Sadly, we hit the inevitable three-month itch (seven years in school relationship terms) when a rumour reached me that Dan was planning on dumping me on Valentine’s Day. Only the night before he’d sent me a heart pattern made of kisses on my Nokia 3310!
I sat silently, shovelling more and more paella (panic = carbs) into my mouth with absolutely nothing to offer.
And as bad as that might make me feel when I’m at a massive couples’ dinner party, I’m doing it for a reason – because I’m not ready for a relationship yet. My non-relationship status might mark me out as a freak, but the fact is I’m not ready to give up my single life for anyone, and it’s an empowering feeling to know there’s no real urgency to do so.
So yes, I’m 25 and I’ve never had a serious relationship but that’s OK. Which leaves me plenty of time to snog a few more frogs until I find someone I’m willing to sacrifice my gold card Infernos membership for. Then you might also be interested in: Polly Vernon: ‘Being Fancied and Famcying People Is One Of The Purest Pleasures I Know’ The Book On Being Single From 1899 Is Awesome You Order People Like A Chinese Takeaway.
Yes, as embarrassing as it is to admit, I am 22 years old I have never had a boyfriend.
With Valentines Day coming up (the day of the year I most resent) I was inspired by a similar post (Confessions of a Hopeless Introvert), and I decided to come up with my own list of reasons why I’m alone.
Next thing I know, I turn around and this super hot guy is talking to one of my friends. It turns out he is incredibly smart as well as good looking, but my friend wasn’t overly excited about it (she is used to being hit on).