5 dating lessons learned my sisters
Some people can’t be pleased and some people won’t be good for you – and many times that will have nothing to do with you. Be confident and own your own faults, your quirks and the things that make you shine.You don’t need anyone’s approval but remember if someone is working hard to manipulate, it’s because probably because they need yours.If anything, our relationship was and is anything but traditional. I was asked to do a boudoir photoshoot and really wanted to do it. When we finish work, she likes to watch Netflix, I like to read or play video games. She prefers in-person group interactions, I prefer one-on-one online interactions.But I wasn’t sure how my wife would react to me taking photos of another girl in various stages of undress. Few things we have in common in terms of interests are travelling, pubs, walks, hikes, and our desire to help others.Our idea of a great time together is discussing our ambitious projects over a pint at a local pub. It’s hard to fight when you basically think the same. I personally think that fights are not healthy in a relationship.
More importantly, if you know the characteristic signs of a toxic person, you’ll have a better chance of catching yourself before you tie yourself in double knots trying to please them.
It turns out, there’s no other quote that resonates with us more than this one: We are today who we are because we’ve spent all this time growing together. My wife and I have been apart many times during our 15 years together. She has a great positive vibe and a contagious smile, and everyone can’t help but be attracted to her. Keeping surprises from each other is hard for us since telling each other everything is a habit. I chose to be honest with her and tell her about it. She appreciated the honesty, and we became stronger for it.
During these years together, we’ve lived in 4 cities, travelled to over 50 countries, volunteered in 5 countries, worked over 5 jobs each, bought and sold a property in Montreal, got married on the Grand Canyon, became nomads for 2 years, and have been apart for work or school for a total of about 3 years combined. I’m 32 years old and she’s 30 years old at the time of writing this. Now that you know who we are and where we come from, I want to share with you some lessons I’ve learned along the way: I know you’ve heard this a thousand times. When people ask me when she’s away: “Aren’t you afraid she’ll leave you or cheat on you? People who truly trust each other have nothing to fear. Of all the skills that I’ve learned, lying is not one of them. The best example I can give you was when I was in Colombia and my wife was in Congo. It wasn’t so much asking for permission, but rather tell her how I saw it. I went into greater details of that story here: Finding common hobbies or interests is a new couple’s thing. We listen to very different music, love different foods, have different friends, etc.
We have all had toxic people dust us with their poison. Difficult people are drawn to the reasonable ones and all of us have likely had (or have) at least one person in our lives who have us bending around ourselves like barbed wire in endless attempts to please them – only to never really get there.
Their damage lies in their subtlety and the way they can engender that classic response, ‘It’s not them, it’s me.’ They can have you questioning your ‘over-reactiveness’, your ‘oversensitivity’, your ‘tendency to misinterpret’.When we travelled around the world for a year, that wasn’t a problem since we were living incredible things together. It’s completely fine if you do things with other friends without your partner. I would have missed so many things in our year-long travels if she wasn’t with me.